One of my dearest friends lost her son (only child) Friday night. I never wanted anyone to have to walk this journey ever again and now, sadly, someone I love so much is having to navigate through this heartbreak.
I was told once that you never know how strong you are until that is all you have. It's true. I know she is far stronger than she thinks, but there won't be a moment that she is breathing that she won't hurt over the loss of her precious baby boy.
It will never get easier, but like myself and others that have had to walk this journey, she will find a way to cope.
Please don't tell her that it will get better or easier. That is a lie! Don't tell her you know how she feels unless you have had to lay your child to rest. You cannot know how she feels as there is no other feeling than the loss of your child.
If you tell her you will be there for her whenever she needs you, then please be there. If you cannot, then please do not tell her you will.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve and especially grieving the loss of your child. There will be no words for her to express what and how she is feeling.
The best thing anyone can do is just be there and listen. Don't avoid her and don't be afraid to bring up her son's name. He is and always will be a huge part of her life and regardless of how much time passes after he has left this earth she will want to hear his name and talk about him.
Love on your children every chance you get regardless their age, because we are not guaranteed tomorrow with them.
From one brokenhearted mom to another.
No comments:
Post a Comment